When you love someone-you choose to do things for that someone without return.
When you start thinking about return-you are at the verge of a break up
When two stranger meets-it's two different character and attitude.
You don't expect one to change, but compromising is the key to a good relationship.
The guy don't want another mother and the girl don't want another father.
If strangers plan to get together, compromising is important.
As much as he does something for you, you do someone for him too.
As much as she does something for you, you do something for her too.
Your mother/maid, would have washed-fold-iron your cloths, cook and wash your plates before you know this stranger-so don't expect this stranger to be your mother/maid.
This stranger that you have grown fond of may wish to help you out with the house chores, but remember as much as the stranger may want to help, you must not demand.
Give and take.
You wash, she hangs, you fold the cloths, she irons. Compromise - give and take.
She cooks, you wash, she wipes, you throw. Compromise - give and take.
This new person in your life is not your maid. This new person was also like you- grew up with mother/maid. You may not want your kids to grow up thinking their other half will be their new maid.
Treat this new fond person the way you want to be treated.
You don't want to clean-the other person do not want to clean either.
Compromise-give and take.